FRaPS Scheduling and Happy Valentine’s Day…

I am happy to announce that I have a schedule set up for all of you to check out. It is self scheduling so you can pick the times and locations that you would like.

I have two support group listings set up for now. One for suicide survivors and one for sexual abuse victims. There will be more to come as there is need. Also I would like to add that the two we have set up so far are on Tuesday and Thursday evenings, every other week. If there are different days or times that work better for you, just let me know and I will see what I can do.

Here is the link to my scheduling landing page:  or you can go to my Facebook page and just click on the schedule button. I tried to make this as easy as possible for everyone.

I need to send out a BIG THANK YOU to my local FRaPS team for letting me make my schedule so flexible for our online clients. They are really picking up the slack here in the office.

Last, I want to wish all of you a very Happy Valentine’s Day!!

Warning Signs of Bullying

This post was copied from and I thought that it was so perfect that I didn’t want to change a thing. Please visit their website for a whole lot of great information on bullying. 🙂

Warning Signs

Teacher meeting with parent and studentThere are many warning signs that may indicate that someone is affected by bullying—either being bullied or bullying others. Recognizing the warning signs is an important first step in taking action against bullying. Not all children who are bullied or are bullying others ask for help.

It is important to talk with children who show signs of being bullied or bullying others. These warning signs can also point to other issues or problems, such as depression or substance abuse. Talking to the child can help identify the root of the problem.

Signs a Child is Being Bullied

Look for changes in the child. However, be aware that not all children who are bullied exhibit warning signs.

Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:

  • Unexplainable injuries
  • Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
  • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
  • Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
  • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
  • Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem
  • Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide

If you know someone in serious distress or danger, don’t ignore the problem. Get help right away.

Signs a Child is Bullying Others

Kids may be bullying others if they:

  • Get into physical or verbal fights
  • Have friends who bully others
  • Are increasingly aggressive
  • Get sent to the principal’s office or to detention frequently
  • Have unexplained extra money or new belongings
  • Blame others for their problems
  • Don’t accept responsibility for their actions
  • Are competitive and worry about their reputation or popularity

Why don’t kids ask for help?

Statistics from the 2008–2009 School Crime Supplement show that an adult was notified in only about a third of bullying cases. Kids don’t tell adults for many reasons:

  • Bullying can make a child feel helpless. Kids may want to handle it on their own to feel in control again. They may fear being seen as weak or a tattletale.
  • Kids may fear backlash from the kid who bullied them.
  • Bullying can be a humiliating experience. Kids may not want adults to know what is being said about them, whether true or false. They may also fear that adults will judge them or punish them for being weak.
  • Kids who are bullied may already feel socially isolated. They may feel like no one cares or could understand.
  • Kids may fear being rejected by their peers. Friends can help protect kids from bullying, and kids can fear losing this support.

Support Group Poll Topics

I am throwing you all a poll to see which topics will be the most popular to start with. Then we will determine how often we will all want to "meet". Please take a moment to fill out the poll and also share it with anyone that you think may be interested.

If you do not see a topic listed, please feel free to write one in, along with any other info that you would like me to have. Thank you.

Support Group Topic Poll

Our Children of Illness

The subject of our children is fresh on my mind today. Maybe because I had a little reminder of how emotional and stressful life can be when your child is sick.

My daughter has been fighting a chronic illness since she was four years old. The pain, the worry and the stays at hospitals never gets any easier to take no matter how old they get.

We came back to the hospital yesterday for the first time in almost a year. Just when you think she may have “outgrown” it, even though you know better, it hits her and it hits her hard. How fast all of the old emotions come to the surface.

I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I find it ironic that she is sick right after I brought my business online. It is like a reminder to me how much we need this.

I get paid to help people through tough times and I volunteer at support groups to help even more people. I know the right things to say and do for others, but the perspective gets lost when it is my own child.

Why Some People are Bullies…

This is the big question, isn’t it? Why do they bully? Why am I the target? Why couldn’t their parents put an end to it before they turned so BAD? So many questions, and unfortunately there isn’t enough answers available to go around.

Is bullying something you are born with? NO.

Could a person stop bullying? YES

Can a person that is being bullied, some day turn into a bully themselves? YES

Bullying is a LEARNED behavior. It is not a disease. And it does not only apply to children. Grown adults can be bullies and be bullied as well. Is there anything that we can do about it as parents or as a community? ABSOLUTELY!

I feel very strongly about this. There is help out there and it isn’t in a pill form. I will say this one more time, bullying is not a disease, it is a learned behavior.

I wish that I could claim to cure bullying in the world and all will be well, but that is not even practical. But if I can help one person that is a bully or is being bullied, then at least I will feel like I have done something.

People die from being bullied. Bullying in one form or another is one of the leading causes of suicide. Did you know that?

Can I cure bullying? NO

Can I set someone in the right direction and help them along their way? YES

I can’t cure anything on my own. It takes work from both sides, but I can be here to guide you. I want to help. I think I was put on this earth to do just that. Nothing makes me happier than helping someone either by just listening or sharing my own experiences or whatever else that particular individual may need or want.

Support Groups…

Hey Everyone, I just wanted to fill you all in on where my mind is at today. I am setting up “conference call” support groups!! This is very exciting for me to be able to do.

In person support groups are always amazing, and forum groups are great too. But to be able to call in with a group, be able to hear everyone talk, and you could actually see everyone too if they have web cams, without leaving the comfort of your home.

I do not have all of the details worked out yet, but I will be keeping you updated along the way. With your help, I will work on getting the support group for the topic of your choice up first. So once you look through some of our most common topics, be sure to let me know which one you would be most interested in. Suicide, teenagers, disabled spouses or disabled children for examples.

Maybe I will try to set up a poll if I can figure out how. he he But for now, just please leave me comments on what you would be most interested in. Then, the next step will be to figure out the best time frame that will work for everyone and how often. I am running a crazy schedule right now, but hopefully I will have it a little more smooth by the time we are ready to go on air!!

Thank you and I look forward to your input!!

Welcome to FRaPS!!!

I would love to take a moment to welcome you all to FRaPS!! FRaPS stands for Family, Relationships and Personal Situations. We are a team of experts that specialize in these topics.

Our goal is to advise and educate parents, children and individuals in areas of their lives that they seem to be struggling. We started our consulting/advising business back in 2003 but just launched our online presence today, 02/08/2013!!

We are so excited about being able to help globally, especially in such a time of need. Bullying and school shootings are happening all too often, and it will amaze you at how we can change our child’s way of thinking before they ever get to that point.

My name is Angela, and I will be the team member that you will be communicating with the most. I am very excited about this new expanded venture and I hope that you are as well.

Here are some of the topics that we specialize in:
• Teenagers and structure
• Bringing up a child that is not yours
• Bullying (both sides of the coin)
• Living with divorce
• Having a child with a disability
• Having a spouse with a disability
• Financial hardships
• Parenting in general
• Stay at home parents
• Working outside the home parents
• Rekindling your marriage
• Starting your own business on a shoe string budget
• Bringing a little spice to the bedroom
• Suicide and its aftermath
• Dealing with school sports and concussions

I will try to update this blog daily, but it may end up being more like once a week. But please be sure to “like” us on Facebook to be sure you are kept up to date on everything that we have to offer.

Also be sure to look into our referral program!!